too bad! haha gotcha ; )

the number one question I always get asked is “who am I married to?” and I always respond with a sly, “its a secret ; )” or “im not tellin ; )”

and most of you want to know why.

why the big secret?

well, to be honest, i could answer this a million different ways. so as i sit here and think of what i should say to you, its simply this, I keep him a secret so it doesn’t cloud your judgement.

and half the room just went, “huh?”

lets be real here, most of you just want to know if he’s super famous or not. or if the band guy you’re crushin on actually has a significant other. most of you probably haven’t even considered what we, as real band wives, actually go through while you’re busy fan girling over our most beloved.

the reason I started this twitter and then this tumblr was because I want to shed light on one of the most shadowed parts of the music industry…and no im not talking about the back lounge on the tour bus…im talking about the women that are left at home to deal with all the struggles of being their mans actual number one fan.

my hope is that by you not knowing who I am married to, you will actually pay more attention to what I have to say…selfish? maybe. but im sick of real band wives not having a voice any more.

now please please don’t get me wrong, even on my hardest day of being married to a touring a musician, I know that there could be worse. I constantly remind myself that my husband isn’t getting shot at, beat down, or tortured, as so many army, navy, marine wives have to go through.

I remind myself that it could be worse.

I could go on and on about the struggles we go through but that will be for another date and time. for now I just wanted to clear up my reasoning as to why I choose to keep “us” a secret.

thank you for all the love and support you have already shown to us real band wives. it is amazing to see the response of gratitude from you all.

<3 

I struggle with wanting.

a home to call my own.

a bank account thats not always almost empty.

clothes…yeah, just clothes.

a job that I am passionate about.

the list could go on and on.

I struggle with wanting.

I need to struggle less and appreciate more.

I need to find contentment.

Thankfulness.

Silver linings.

Little blessings.

I need more of You and less of me.

You > me.

I love writing, its actually what I think I’m best at right next to just loving people.

I also love my husband.

a lot.

so I decided the other day I would combine my love interests.

Writing. People. Husband. (in no particular order ; )

I am starting this blog for many reasons, but mainly to shed light on a part of the music scene that so many people long to be apart of but never really think about.

Band Wives.

I can’t even tell you how many teenage girls I’ve heard say, “I can’t wait to be a real band wife!” and yet they have NO CLUE what our life is REALLY like.

Now don’t get me wrong, our life definitely comes with some perks and honestly, I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but it takes a special kind of woman to deal with this position in life.

Not saying we are better then anyone, just saying we are definitely different.

This blog will consist of everything from ridiculously funny stories to heart wrenching fights my husband and I have to endure long distance.

I have cleared it with him that I can share the good, the bad, and the down right nasty on here.

No I will not be saying any names.

If you know who we are, then know that we love you and we consider you closer then most, so please use discernment if anyone asks if you know who we are. 

I am very excited to see where God takes us on this journey we call life and I am blessed that you all want to be apart of Real Band Wives.